Emotionally Abducted

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Emotional abduction is the forceful kidnapping of one’s emotions. Just from this phrase some would say that they have never heard of it. This phrase came to mind while watching the Dr. Phil show on 2/4/11 on which they were discussing how a man’s children were abducted by their mother. When think of the multiple dimensions of the human being, we realize that these children were physically, mentally and emotionally abducted.

How many of you reading this have been hurt in some way in a previous relationship and as a result of that pain decided that you would not allow yourself to be hurt in that way again? Or that you will never allow yourself to be hurt again? In the moment you made this decision, you have emotionally abducted yourself and everyone you have a relationship with after that point.

Life is made up of relationships, and whatever relationship we have experienced pain and made the above decision for the sake of self-preservation is the basis of our fear in relationships. Whatever that relationship is dating, courting, engaged, marriage, friends, work, church, etc.

If we have reached a point of divorce, separation or dissolution in a relationship, the question is: “How much of it had to do with my fears?” It is our avoidance of being hurt again that lead to the development of our fears. It will take us confronting our fears in order to have any chance of having a healthy relationship. In an era of finger pointing, there is a clarion call for introspection. The root of divorce is internal and at some point we have projected our fears onto another, which justifies our pointing our finger at them. The problem is that until we confront ourselves this problem will plague every relationship we are in because we are the common factor.

Ask yourself this question, “Has this problem been in more than one relationship?” If so, then what is common between those relationships – you. It is our fears that creates questions within ourself about all parts of our self worth, identity, value, etc. We begin an avalanche of comparing our self to others and our true self becomes emotionally abducted.

“Every man stamps his own value upon himself, and we are great or little according to our own will” by Samuel Smiles

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Source by Cameron A Bailey Sr